I went to check on my daughters hamster this morning and he was not moving. I desided to call her father and have him tell her about (moe) her hamster. I know she will have alot of questions for me. What is the best way to console her and explain to her that everything will be fine. This is the 2nd hamster she has lost in 5 yrs. I know the life span is not long at all about 3yrs. It is just hard to see my daughter so sad. She is so sensitive and I know she will cry alot. Please help me with this situation. A desperate mom.
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Don’t tell her. Go out and buy a new hampster that looks like the old one.
tell her moe is with god and hang out with his hamster friends, in heven.
So…why do you keep getting her animals that don’t live very long, if she can’t handle death? Seems thoughtless to me.
Just break it down easy, and finally tell her that he had to go. Also include that some animals may not live that long as others, and that it will be alright.
just tell her that you will get another hampster if she is grown up about it.
Give the hampster a funeral too
Tell her he’s gone to that big hamster ball in the sky…..
Honesty is the best policy.
Get another pet that has a bigger lifespan eg dog cat even rat.
While I was growing up I always had hamsters and like you mentioned they do not have to longest life span. I probably had four hamsters by the time I was ten, and all of them ended up dying. I remember always being sad but didn’t linger on it too long. I think it is a valuable lesson to be learned.
One thing though that my mom always did for me was that she and I buried them. And she appreciated how serious that it really was for me. I also have a letter I wrote about how sad I was and would miss them but that they were good pets. So maybe just help her to focus on the fun times with Moe. I hope this helps a little.
Take this as an opportunity to explain death and that she shouldn’t be upset it is a natural order in life. Its a lesson that we all must learn, weather with a pet or someone close to you, you need to understand that it is inevitable.
Just hug her and tell her, don’t sugar coat it, just be strait forward.
Good Luck.
well just start like sweetie mommie needs to ell you something, moe died this morning. i know you loved him but it was his time to go. she will be sadd theres no stopping that but give her some time alone she’ll get over it soon
Just tell her that moe went to a better place and that everything will be ok, that moe had a good life living with her and it’s nothing she has done
I suggest that you be honest with her. Depending on her age she should be able to process things. you said it is the second in 5 years so I assume that she is at least 5 so she is old enough to understand a little about death.
I would hold a little burial ceremony for Moe so that she can say good by. give her some grieving time then take her to the pet store, when she is ready, to pick out a new pet. preferably one with a longer life span.
Hi children are harder than you think,,tell her the truth ,that moe has gone asleep and if she gets up,set ask her if she would like another pet may be another hamster or take her to buy some thing else that she would love to nurse and play with. good luck with your little girl ,,phyllis
Tell her that the hamster went to heaven. Then get her another one, maybe have a funeral for Moe.
Pain makes us stronger, it’s ok to cry.
But I know you want to help her in this.
Just think of it as a teaching opportunity for you and your daughter.
Definately tell her the truth, but maybe you could have a conversation about heaven and how it’s a really great place to go when you die. Let her know her hamster was sick and in pain and that going to heaven made it so he didn’t have to be in pain anymore.
And, it’s ok to miss him, because he was such a great friend.
And if you can remind her of all the fun times they had.
Let her know that’d you’d be happy to get a new one when she’s ready.
I know you can do it, it’ll be hard, but opefully you’ll both grow frmo the experience.
Tell her explain to her gently that you really did not want to tell her before but you thought that her hamster was sick, and the hamster was sickly, and that you did not want to tell her because of what happened to the other hamster, And that, The hamster is very sick and you haved to take it to the vet, , soo sneak it and tell her you will be back, and go bury the hamster, and go right to the pet store and buy another hamster, And then quick come home and tell her that the hamster had a quick recovery, and the doc said it will be ok, That way, your off the hook, by telling her that the hamster died, But if that doesnt work then you will haved to tell her sooner or later, maybe the day before she graduates highschool, iam sorry iam a sentimental person
I believe it is a perfect opportunity to educate your daughter in life and dead. Inevitable of life.
Be sure and offer her some comfort by adding, that her pet has graduated to a better place. As we all need to achieve that graduation day some day.
Do not worry about the sad part. If there were no sad moments in life, there would not be happy moments either.
God bless your family.
You should tell her or just buy another one and tell her Moe went on vacation!
It depends on how young your daughter is. If she is quiet young I would tell her that Moe has gone to another place but is always watching her all the time so he really he has never gone away. I am not over the age of 16 and my brother (10) and I lost our hamster about 2 years ago and my brother wasn’t too happy about it but one thing that kept him happy was the fact that the hamster had had a good life but it was time for it to move on and will always be there to watch him in everything he does. If your daughter is about the age of me I would tell her that Moe died peacefully and will always have memories of her in his mind as he watches over her as she will also have the memories in her mind for a very long time. I hope I helped you out in any way at all.
You should just tell her that her hampster died. Expain to her that hampsters don’t usually live more than 3 years. Tell her that she took good care of her hampster and that her hampster loved her very much. Then have a funeral for it. If she still is crying a lot, tell her you will only buy her another one when you know she can handle having a hampster. If she is crying all the time then she won’t be able to take care of the new one.
Goodluck! :]
im 15 and have lost aobut 9 hamster in 4 years, 2 within 2 weeks, 1 within days when i got it, so i know how you feel
You just need to come out and say im sorry, but your little hammy died, she will feel very upset and cry, i know i do each time, but she will get over it, death is sometimes a goodthing (not the fact of something dying, but) it builds character and it helps you get ready for things more important to you not being there
Just tell her the hamster had a nice life which im sure it did, and that she can get a new one, if you want her to, she will get over it, and it will be hard, but you need to tell her sooner than later
You can give it a nice funeral, and bury it in your backyard, thats what i do, i have a hamster graveyard in my backyard, got little crosses over each one
im sorry about her hamster
i know what your daughter is going through, i am 12 and i went through three hampsters. One died about two weeks after i got him, the second lasted about two years, and well, he died. And the last one, my little Alvin, boy i loved him, i had him almost three years and one day i came in to feed him and i noticed that he wasn’t moving, well, he was dead, at that time i was too young to realize that and i though he was just sound asleep. My mom came in later and found that he was dead, she came into the living room and told me, i cried, i balled, trust me, i wasn’t a happy person. My mom held me and told me it was alright and that he was happy, probobly running on some wheel(which he was always doing) in heaven with a bunch of other happy hamsters. So what my mom did to help me get over it, was she let me pick where we were going to bury him( i choose my church, we had a pet graveyard) and we buried him and my mom and i had a personal service. Back then he was my only pet beside my fish which you don’t care about when they die, and i got over it quickly. Burrying him really helped, and saying a prayer, for the next three years until we moved i visited him at his little gravesite. I hope that helps you, Kate
thow the hamster away take her to the pet store and say you want to buy her a friend for her other hamster and wen u get home wen u see the hamster is gon act all surprised and she’ll get over it and start loving her new hamster
explain to her that it went to hamster heaven after having a happy life with her, then see if she wants a new one, or maybe a different pet, how old is she?